Four years ago I had my first child. I decided that I wanted to be the one raising my child instead of putting her into daycare like all my co-workers do with their children. I did not want to miss the first of anything. So I resigned from my job at the end of my pregnancy and became a full time stay at home mom. There has only been a couple of people that have come to watch my children in the few events that I was not able to take them with.
Then I decided that I wanted to go back to school so that once all the kids are in school full time I will have my degree and availability to work with out distraction. I thought this is a good plan, I can do online schooling which is flexible on what time I need to be online. I thought well I need some help just a few hours a day a couple times a week. School was starting soon. I had someone lined up that ended up not being the correct person for the job and that ended within two days of school. So I placed an add on CL and a few nanny sites with little responses or just not the right ones. I put up an add on FB with a local group I am on. I had a few hits, but EVERYONE wants to bring their children. Which when you think about that it may be ok, but really their child will always come first if they are there. That is just a mothers instinct and if they dont do it that way, well I would question them for not...
Finally had one of my "friends" on FB respond and say ok I will help you but I do have two kids that I home school. I said well lets try it out. She came the first day ready to tell me everyway I am messing up and the second day made my little cry and she was in her room for 4 of the 6 hours the woman watched the kids. She even offered her son to mow the lawn, and how that went is she mowed the lawn and had her son watch my kids.....I gave her some money and she went home. When I texted her to let her know my kids has a cough and snotty nose she advised she cannot get sick and and then I never heard from her again. When I asked if she was coming a couple days later she stated her whole family was sick again. But this is someone that just said don't worry I will come and help and then only does 2 days. It is not so much that it wasn't working because I tend to lean that way, its the lack of communication to tell me she was not coming back and I need to find someone else. So I finished out the quarter with no childcare and the house was a mess but I still managed 2 A's and a B. Which I thought was pretty good for my first quarter in school.
When I signed up for summer quarter I added two classes to my schedule, and I started looking for a Nanny and interviewed several people. I wanted to be prepared for the shorter summer quarter. I ended up settling on a young girl because well she was cheap. But I said ok if I hire you, I need you to promise you will be here everyday. She said oh yes for sure. She showed up barely the first week. Sleeping on the couch and just watching the kids not to much interaction. Then I spoke with her and asked her to think about if this job was right for her since it was so early and gave her a scheduled list of what I want the kids to be doing and her to be doing with the kids and an extended time 2 out of the 4 days she worked. It included cleaning up after the kids. I texted her on Sunday and she said yes she is ok with the change in hours and with the things I want her to do. She came on Monday and Tuesday. On Tuesday when I dropped her off at the bus stop and handed her the weeks bus fare, I told her " I need you to stay later tomorrow due to a doctors apt I am not sure when will be over" "ok" she said. Then later that night she texts me to tell me that she wants to take off the next day because she has period cramps and is sore and has softball in the evening. I couldn't believe after expressing my need for her then have her ask for the day off....well I responded with I really need you but ok. she responded with she wanted to do extra hours a different day and work that Sat so we can go out. I thought about it and decided I did not want to keep messing around with someone that is not reliable and does not stick to their word. I texted her to let her know of my disappointment and that I didn't think this would work. She responded with Whatever! and I asked for an address to send her pay to her.
Once again I am without a nanny, I don't have time to look for another nanny since this is a short quarter and so much work. So we will see how the house looks at the end of this quarter....LOL I am not sure why I am having such a hard time finding someone that is willing to come and help me out for a decent wage. On the plus side in September the oldest will be going to school, which will make things a bit easier??
One can only hope..........
